(These policies are why so many of your Filipino friends are nurses.)
She didn’t know she was unintentionally but mildly gaslighting me about being an “invisible Asian” (or “Secret Asian Man”, as I liked to call myself).
I was only beginning to understand that my Midwest-raised white friend equated “Asian” with East Asian (“Fancy”) and “model minority” — not with Southeast Asian (“Jungle”), and perhaps less so with South Asian.
Meanwhile, every time I’d bring up the Johnny Rico thing, I’d get pushback — like from my conservative and libertarian white friends at my fitness studio.
As my social circles widened with Black friends and colleagues, so did my understanding of their lived experiences.